Ms. Kopley’s Counselor Corner
October is National Bullying Prevention Month
Mark your calendar that Wednesday October 25th we will WEAR ORANGE to show that we are “Together Against Bullying — United for Kindness, Acceptance, and Inclusion”
My goal is to help students learn to identify bullying behaviors and how to STAND-UP for their classmates and selves to STOP giving bullies power! Here are some of the key concepts we are discussing this month.
What Is Bullying?
One person or group is intentionally hurting or harming another with words (verbal) with their bodies (physical) or trying to make them feel like an outsider (social)
- The behavior is repeated or has the potential to be repeated over time. This can be to the same target or the same behavior to more than one target.
- The bully or bullies have more “power” than the target. “Power” can mean the person bullying is maybe more popular, bigger in size, older than or a group of children who gang up on another child or children. The target(s) feel powerless to make the behaviors stop. Bullying is about POWER.
Examples of Bullying:
Physical: Using your body to hurt someone else’s body or things. Some examples would be hitting, kicking, spitting and stealing or damaging someone else’s things.
Verbal: Using your words to hurt someone. Verbal bullying is done to hurt the individual and the bully doesn’t need an audience to make the impact. Examples include teasing, name calling, and threats.
Social: The intention is to make the person feel bad in front of or involving as many people as possible causing the target to feel like they do not belong. Examples include leaving someone out on purpose, trash talking, telling lies about someone (rumors), making fun of someone, and cyberbullying or using technology to hurt the person socially. Examples of cyberbullying would be mean text messages, posting unflattering videos or photos, commenting on posts that make fun of someone and spreading rumors online.
Who are the players in bullying?
The Bully– The person or persons doing the bullying
The Target– The person being bullied
The Bystander– The people who stand by and watch the bullying happening
Three types of bystanders:
*The bystander who joins in – laughing or joining in with the bullying behavior giving their
power to the bully
*The passive bystander- They do nothing. Doing nothing says to the bully that their behavior
is ok and gives the bully more power.
*The bystander that helps- This bystander stands-up to the bully, gets help, or helps get the target away from the bully. They give their power to the target!
Want to learn more about bullying? Here are a few links to these resources online: